Multiple Perspectives Matter in Relationships, especially when one has PTSD

A Different Perspective

When I see something broken, I try to fix it. When I see a problem, I try to solve it. The one thing I always do is, approach it from a different angle. It’s always good to get a different perspective on things, this can come from physically looking at the problem or discussing it with others. When I say talking about it with people, I don’t mean always the “professionals”, sometimes you need to discuss things with people who have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. I know when I was in the Military, I always taught my guys to get as many perspectives as possible when looking for Explosive Devices. Whether it be lying down, standing up, kneeling, from the side, or at a distance, different perspectives always help you identify the problem and help you solve the problem.

Take Responsibility in Your Relationship

Taking responsibility is not taking the blame. Please don’t misinterpret what I am saying. Taking responsibility is not the same as taking blame. Taking responsibility can simply mean that you understand why the other person is reacting the way they are. Maybe you understand their emotions better, their values, way of doing things, etc. Perhaps taking responsibility just means your way of doing something conflicts with the way they would like to do something. It doesn’t mean you are wrong or at fault but, it also does not mean that you are right either. This is a relationship we are talking about, most of the time no one is right and no one is wrong. It takes a little bit of work, a little bit of understanding, and a little bit of compromise. It takes two to tango, am I right? Or am I right?

PTSD and how We see the World.

I find it very easy to see the world from other people’s perspective. PTSD takes away many of our emotions and either replaces them or leaves us functioning with just a few such as guilt, sadness, and self-blame. I believe that with these comes an increase in empathy. I still can’t understand how I can be so angry all the time and throw people out of my way but at the same time, if they are down, I need to help them stand up.